How I Walked Away from Someone I Still Loved

There’s a misconception out there, that when you walk away from someone, it means you’ve stopped loving them.

But let’s face it, so many people walk away while still deeply in love. And that’s what makes it so excruciating.

No one really talks about how hard it is to leave someone you love.
To walk away not because you don’t care, but because staying is costing you your peace, your power, your sense of self.

And many don’t do it. They stay too long. They shrink. They settle.
Because leaving takes a level of strength most people don’t even realize they have to summon.

If you’re in that place right now, this is for you.

Coming from personal experience, I know how heart-wrenching it can be to walk away.
Even though the love I experienced was unhealthy, even toxic most of the times, it still cut me to my core to leave.

So how did I do it? And more importantly, how did I not go back?

I made myself the main character. I paused everything else and turned inward.

I asked myself:
“How do I feel?”, “What do I need?”

And while my heart wasn’t ready…
And my head wasn’t ready…
My soul, my intuition, was begging me to go.

So I did. I listened. I honored that whisper. And it saved me (and no I’m not being dramatic when I say that!) Listening to my inner whisper led me to now living a life that I love.

If you’re struggling to walk away from someone you still love, I want you to ask yourself something:

If this person was a complete stranger…with no history, no emotional pull…would you still choose this relationship?

Imagine you’ve just been dropped into this relationship for one week. No memories, no hopes, no attachment. Would you feel safe? Seen? Respected?
Would your body feel calm or stressed?

Because here’s what we forget:
Attachment can feel like love… but it’s not the same thing.

Attachment is tricky. It creates a chokehold on our nervous system.
We convince ourselves we can’t live without this person. That we’ll never feel this way again. I thought I would never be loved by anyone again, and HA that couldn’t be further from the truth.

What we have to remember is that everything in this life is impermanent. Even your body will one day no longer be yours. So what are you gripping onto?

Let go, and I promise what you won’t find eternal heartbreaking pain, but freedom.

A Visualization Practice for Letting Go:

If you're still struggling, I invite you to try this gentle exercise:

1. Put on a soft, instrumental song, one that gives you goosebumps, that makes you feel safe.

2. Close your eyes.

3. Picture yourself hugging this person goodbye. Feel the warmth, the sorrow, the love, and then… smile.

4. Now, turn around and walk away.

5. With each step, you see a light growing brighter in the distance.

6. You keep walking toward it, not looking back.

7. As you get closer, you realize: that light is you. Your highest self.

8. They’re standing there, arms wide open, beaming with pride and love.

9. You walk into their arms. And in that moment, you feel complete, safe, home.

Repeat this as many times as you need. Let it remind you: you are your own home.

People will leave.
People will hurt you.
People may not choose you.
But you will always have you.

You are the constant.
You are the anchor.
You are the love you’ve been looking for!

If this message speaks to you, and you’re struggling to find clarity or peace in your relationship journey, I’m here for you.

Whether you're seeking confidence, closure, or someone to simply sit with you in the “in-between”, get in touch with me!

👉 Book a discovery call with me. You deserve love that feels safe, reciprocal, and fulfilling. Let’s take the first step together. 💛

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Let’s create the love life you truly deserve. 💕

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