The love you allow is shaped by this one habit

We’ve all heard the analogy: if someone came into your home and trashed the place, would you invite them back? Of course not.
So why do we let people stay in our lives when they constantly make us feel bad about ourselves?

You protect your physical home because it’s yours. But what about your true home, your mind, your body, your soul? If you demand respect for your space, you should demand the same (if not more) for yourself. That includes how you treat you.

A lot of people say respect is earned. I’ve never fully agreed. I believe respect is given not just to others, but to ourselves. Not everyone will treat you the way you deserve, and while you can’t control them, you can control who you allow into your life… and how you show up for yourself.

Because here’s the truth:
If your internal dialogue is full of, “I’m not good enough,” “I’m so dumb,” or “I keep messing everything up,” then when someone else treats you the same way, it won’t feel off, it’ll feel familiar.

But when your self-talk shifts to, “I’m no the best at this, but I’m learning,” “I messed up, butI’m human,” or “I’m worthy, even with my imperfections,” you’ll immediately recognize when someone’s treatment doesn’t align. And you won’t tolerate it.

I’m not saying you’ll never have insecure thoughts, we all do. But what matters is how you respond to them. Do you spiral into self-criticism, or do you meet yourself with compassion?

Because your thoughts shape your reality.
Would you rather live in a reality filled with disrespect, low self-worth, and inner chaos…
or one grounded in love, acceptance, and peace?

The choice is yours. And it starts with the smallest shifts.
Next time you forget something at the store and catch yourself saying, “Ugh, I’m so stupid,” try replacing it with, “I forgot, it happens!”
Simple. Gentle. Powerful.

And if you slip up? That’s okay. Reframe the thought and keep going. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s intention.You’re in control of how you speak to yourself, who you let into your life, and what you consume daily.

Want to try something right now?

Let’s do The Watch List Exercise. Next time you’re feeling down on yourself, ask:

• Who have I been spending time with?

• What kind of media have I been consuming?

• What activities have I been prioritizing?

• What food have I been eating?

We often underestimate how much our environment shapes our mindset. But what you feed your mind is just as important as what you feed your body.
Protect your inner home. Watch what you’re letting in and what you’re saying within.

You deserve to live in a home (a mind) filled with peace and self-respect.
Start there.

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