The Most Important Decision of Your Life—Are You Making It Wisely?

I once came across a quote that has stayed with me ever since: “The most important decision you will make in your life is who you choose to marry.” Choosing a life partner isn’t a decision to be taken lightly—it has the power to shape the course of your entire future.

Whether you're in a relationship or not, I hope you always ask yourself: “Will my current partner make my life easier or harder?” Life is unpredictable—unexpected challenges like job loss, illness, or the loss of a loved one can appear out of nowhere. Now, ask yourself this: Is the person you’re with someone you trust to support you and stand by your side through life’s toughest moments?

I've only been in two relationships in my life. In my first, I put on rose-colored glasses from the start and failed to see things as they really were. I never paused to ask myself if this person was truly capable of supporting me through life’s inevitable ups and downs. Looking back, the answer would have been a hard no. But I didn’t take the time to sit with my thoughts in silence and face the truth.

Walking away from someone you love is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. But here’s what I’ve learned—leaving doesn’t mean the love disappears. Love is infinite; it doesn’t just run out. But being honest with yourself and removing those rose-colored glasses is essential for your well-being.

Marriage makes it harder to leave a relationship that isn’t right for you. Add children into the equation, and it becomes even more complicated. That’s why I urge you: don’t take this decision lightly. Don’t let the excitement of being in love cloud your judgment. Be honest with yourself. Overcome the fear, the scarcity mindset, and the attachments that might be holding you back from walking away when you know deep down it’s the right choice.

So, here’s a question for you: If you knew for certain that you could thrive without this person, would you still stay?

Life is unpredictable, and while you can’t control what happens around you, you CAN control who you choose to share your life with. Time is the most precious currency—don’t spend it on the wrong person.

Weekly Reflection Assignment:

Take some time this week to reflect and answer these questions about your current partner (or keep them in mind if you're dating and getting to know someone new). This simple exercise can help you stay grounded and see things clearly—without the rose-colored glasses.

Grab a notebook and ask yourself:

1. If your current partner never changed anything about themselves as they are right now, would you still want to marry them?

2. If you had a son or daughter exactly like your partner, would you be proud of them?

3. If you experienced a major life challenge (loss of a loved one, serious illness, etc.), would you trust them to support and stand by you through it?

These questions have been life-changing for me, and I hope they help you too. Be picky about who you give your time, energy, and love to. You deserve it.

Here’s to trusting the process and creating a life you love. 💛If you feel called to, you can book a 1:1 coaching session here.

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Here’s to a fantastic week ahead! Keep shining your light and spreading your kindness—you’re doing better than you realize, and I’m so proud of you. ❤️